The Harmonics (3)

The final triad in the Harmonics groupings - which tell us how we deal with disappointment and how we tend to get into conflicts - is the Competency Group. This triad is made up of the One, Three and Five. All three Types appraoch disappointment by looking at how they can resolve the situation or problem and don't get emotionally involved. All of these Types tend to get into conflicts regarding rules and regulations.

Ones tend to become petty and pedantic over rules - applying them rigidly regardless of context and circumstance and being unforgiving of both themselves and others for any transgression.

Fives tend to not subscribe to rules, either ignoring them or actively challenging them and coming up with other ideas, especially if they feel they are unnecessry, badly thought-up, or nonsensical.

Threes tend to want it both ways - playing by the rules when they suit them but ignoring or breaking them when they don't.

In order to win over these Types in an argument, you must know what you are talking about as they do not take kindly to people who don't. Needless to say their matter-of-fact approach to disappointment can make the other Types feel that they do not understand what they are going through. The Reactive Group can feel that they are not being 'met' emotionally while the Positive Outlook Group can feel that they don't get the uplift or reassurance they need.

Looking at the different approaches to disappointment it is easy to see how we can exacerbate the issue by not understanding what someone else needs at that moment. And it's worth considering what our conflicts are often about. Is there a general theme that runs through them?